Covid-19 pandemic has changed our lives drastically. These times of insecurity and lack of control affect us all and may bring anxiety, impatience, quarrels and instability to our relationships.
Admit that we can’t control Corona crisis. (It also works for all kinds of anxiety). Once we admit it to ourselves, we are not stuck on the first step anymore and can move on to the next step towards inner peace.
Lower our self expectations. In the first week of quarantine, I wanted to organized a walk in closet in my house, make home office and homeschooling work perfectly, take online courses, write daily posts for the blog, be the best mother in the world, catch up with all my friends and family, be active. I had Zumba classes, ballet fitness, yoga. I made treasure hunt, obstacles run, introducing the alphabet games, reading time, art, you name it. On week #2, I was exhausted and frustrated. The closet was a mess, I had run out of ideas to make learning math fun for kids, and I wanted to eat all the time.
By week #3 I realized that I lacked something priceless: Me time. I hadn’t been all by myself since the lockdown was announced. I really missed some alone time. Just a couple of hours to breathe, do nothing, stare at a beautiful tree, do my nails, whatever. Empty my thoughts first and then recharge.
A friend of mine who lives in Holland told me how she manages to have some alone time everyday, even in a small house with husband and two children.
- She takes a long shower and nobody is allowed to go in the bathroom at that time. (Mothers know what I’m talking about).
- She goes for a walk alone once a day.
- She spends some alone time in one of the rooms, be that while cooking, reading, watching her favorite tv shows, listening to her favorite music.
- No guilt. By taking care of yourself, you take better care of your family, and the society. Happy people produce better.
- This way, she makes the most and really enjoys her family time when they’re all together.
How to adjust her story to our reality? Each one of us has a different lifestyle, but I find her way very inspiring. We can all be inspired and find solutions that work for us.
Personally, I feel that each day is completely unique. What worked yesterday isn’t probably gonna work today. And that’s ok. There’s beauty in that. Each day is one of a kind. No matter how sad and difficult yesterday was, we can make a difference today.
It’s not the problem itself, but our focus and approach to it that determines how our lives will be.
Now I’m curious to know what your tips are. Please write to me here in comments, or e-mail me. Share this post if you liked it so that more people can be inspired. We all need that, right?
You are very clever. We must have many informations and than decide what will be better for us , because each one has his (hers) own way of life.
Another thing is the way we react to each situation . The more we are prepared, the better we react .
Having good exemples and being positives , without false expectations, will prepare ourselves to win each crise .